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I asked the recent spate of questions because depression is a complex issue. it comes from brain chemistry inbalances.
Because my son tried to kill himself when he was 10. He's only alive today because the belt broke and he fell down and it loosened. If you think I think suicide is a joke, you are wrong. I am neither flippant nor mocking. I am deadly serious. I'm not angry, not furious, not annoyed at outbursts and name calling. I'm not implying anything about natural mothers on here. I'm not taking swipes at adult adoptees. Supplying links to studies is not a straw man gambit. I am not arguing with you about your views.
If you are parenting a foster child which you adopted that is showing signs of distress or reactive behavior, you need to know ALL the different possibilities that go into your child's recovery.
My son was a small birth weigh baby. he was born exposed to drugs, cocaine. he is impulsive, irritable, asthmatic, with gastric reflux, (which caused the asthma, btw,) and suffers from sensory integration issues.
He was treated by a therapist and several of them with different modalities since he was three. we understand trauma and loss, we were foster parents. not rainbow adoptive ones. we acknowledge his pain. we work through his abandonment issues. we discuss his mother and how he feels about adoption and culture issues. we do the work that is needed. we did not tell him to suck it up and dismiss his feelings.
We addressed his early abuse experiences in therapy, his mother tried to kill him, she tried to suffocate him, she is schizophrenic and scared the bejeesus out of him during court ordered visits, till he came home shaking and they cut the visits off for his own safety before his 2nd birthday. he had several placements before he came to us at 4 months old.
Growing up he hurt children and he killed animals. And he wanted to die. he hurt himself after he stopped hurting others.
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I'm sitting in the asthma doctors office and he tells me they have come out with a red label warning about Singulair and suicide ideations, a drug my son has taken for years for asthma, and he says but you don't have to worry about that,
I sat there stunned. "He's been suicidal these past 3 years", I tell him. we look at each other for a full minute.
We took him off the medicine. it helped reduce some of his symptoms. other things have helped as well. he stopped trying to die.
There are a significant number of adopted children from foster care with asthma. Parents need to know the connections to ANYTHING that can help them find out how to help their children.
I know that allergy medications such as singulair, zyrtec, benadryl, and claratin are all linked to depression, anxiety, and other mental illnesses. People who are prone to those things should avoid those medications.
I learned that the hard way myself. that is one of the reasons I personally don't believe in putting medicines or vaccines or any types into my body unless I know the risks involved and feel like they don't outweigh the benefits. to me, allergy relief doesn't outweigh being depressed, moody, anxious, and on edge. any kinds of medicines you use alter your physical being and you have to watch yourself for different reactions.
And the effects of these drugs sometimes linger on in the body for several months after stopping the drugs. These are things we need to know as parents—thanks for sharing and your concern.
There are many drugs which can increase the risk of suicide. Even drugs that treat depression can elevate a suicide risk. I know for myself, I cannot take ANY type of penicillin based drug. Even if it says that only 1 in one million people who take it will have a reaction, I will be the one who does…and I did & almost died from it. as someone said earlier, many doctors will not be forthright with this info or other contraindications because they are in bed with their pharmaceutical reps. it will be up to you, and to your son when he is an adult to look out for these dangers.
Again- adoptees are at higher risk for suicide. not because they were abused while in-utero, not because they inherited it, but because the act of being separated from their first Mothers is a trauma that many of us never recover from. Add in asthma and/or a depression caused by a chemical imbalance (not situational) and it is even worse. I agree- ap's need to be aware of everything and anything that will aggravate an already at-risk child.
Thanks for the Singulair advice. I hope your son will find peace.
Maybe next time, it might be a good idea that you just come out with your question, since many feel you were intentionally "baiting" people today. it has happened before.
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I sure wish I had known this yesterday. 
Asthma is hardly unique anymore. this is a book I highly recommend:
amazon.com/Healing-New-Childh…
Just about 2 years ago, I had a very, very sick child. his prognosis was institutionalized care by the time he was in junior high (think Jett Travolta).
He was a beautiful, healthy child who got sicker and sicker. he was/is heavy metal toxic and has high measles titers (this means his immune system is in overdrive thinking it's fighting the measles). we have chelated him of the heavy metals that the vaccines contained (Mercury & aluminium) and the ones he's picked up from everyday life (there is Antimony in bedding, mattresses and "flame retardant" pajamas) and lots of Lead covering all the toys from China. he, like your son is from a generation of poisoned children. ADD, ADHA, Autism, Ashsma, apraxia, depression, Lyme, etc. I think your son is poisoned too.
There's a wonderful man, a chemist, named Andrew Hall Cutler. he devised a way to safely chelate himself after he figured ut he was being poisoned by his leaking (Mercury filled) dental amalgams. we use over the counter agents, in small doses, that have brought my beautiful son back to us. he will be reevaluated in the Spring, an he will be off the "spectrum". Cutler's book is under 20 bucks, and is fabulous. It's been our way out of chronic illness caused by pharmaceuticals.
noamalgam.com/
Glad you dumped the Singular, and get a toxic metal hair test from Doctor's Data (no doctor needed):
doctorsdata.com/test_info.asp…
Wish you and your boy the best.
I've been away for a day or so. I'm just now catching up to all this.
Thank you for the information Rosie. If anyone bothered to look at past questions and responses you've submitted, they might not have needed your justification to be human to you.
And here I thought only AP's were the heartless ones.
I am sorry for your experience and you pain.
But why Rosie, do you feel the need to justify yourself to these people? Why?
You are not the only one, but you have done it so eloquently.
Do you think that sharing this experience is going to matter to them? Do you think your point matters?
You can already see that they have begun making the issue about them as adoptees or about drugs. Completing ignoring your circumstance. you are an AP and irregardless of where you adopted from, these people here will never respect that.
Consider looking for other places to join, where your experience and knowledge can have a positive impact and help people who are in your shoes.